DONT BREAK THE VOW Marriage was the first institution, which God established in the beginning for all of mankind. Since God is its author, God has given the regulations to govern it. Concerning marriage, Jesus said in Matthew 19:5-6, “For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Marriage is a lifelong commitment. Marriage is one man, for one wife, for life.
A proper observance of the principle of “shall be one flesh” will solve most every problem in the marriage relationship. Each will treat their spouse, as they would treat their own flesh. When a man and woman marry the union is spoken of as “what God hath joined together.” Marriage is a covenant made with both God and one’s spouse.
When two people marry they are bound together by God for as long as the other shall live. As we read in 1 Corinthians 7:39, “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.” God placed strong protective laws around the home. Marriage is sacred and holy, because God instituted marriage, not man. In our permissive age, let us hold fast to the sacredness of marriage and the home. Our wedding vows must be “for better, for worse, till death us do part”. The Bible clearly spells out exactly what our Lord expects of us in marriage. Man cannot put marriage asunder except at the risk of his own soul.
With the moral decay in our society, our children are growing up where respect for marriage is declining and the divorce rate has become an the divorce rate is about 53%. This means that for every couple who get married, they will more likely get a divorce than stay married. The divorce problem in our society has also crept into the church. This is a tragedy! It is impossible to get a divorce without sin being involved.
Divorce wrecks God’s purpose in marriage. What does God think of divorce? In Malachi 2:13 God is telling Israel why He is not going to accept their worship. Their worship to God had become vain. Why? God says in Malachi 2:14, “Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously; yet is she thy companion and the wife of thy covenant.” Then God says in Malachi 2:16, “For the Lord God of Israel, saith that he hateth the putting away.” God never intended for a married couple to divorce. The reason for divorce is selfishness.
In the above scripture we see, when two people get married, a covenant is made and God is witness to it. So when one gets a divorce, he breaks that covenant. But what does God’s word say about covenant breakers? In Romans 1:31-32 we read, “Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death.” It is sinful to break the marriage covenant with a divorce. Those who break the marriage covenant will be subject to the judgment of God and be worthy of death, unless they repent.
Even if the two divorce, they continue to be bound to each other and the obligations God placed them under when they married. 1 Corinthians 7:39 says, “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth”. Marriage is a sacred and very serious undertaking. To vacate a marriage is to ignore what God says and flaunt our sacred responsibilities. Most divorces end up with either one or both spouses remarrying someone else and living in an adulterous marriage which will cause them to lose their souls in Hell. Let’s not get ourselves into situations that will cause us to lose our souls in eternity.
A preacher was asked what his stand was on Marriage, Divorce, & Remarriage. His reply was “Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” He was accused by his questioner of being a legalist. No, he was only quoting what our Lord said in Matthew 19:9. “Whosoever” means everybody, not somebody. It is all-inclusive. “Whosoever” includes all people, both Christians and non-Christians. God’s marriage law is binding on all married people. It is not possible that God would join two people in marriage through the act of adultery. Too long we in the Lord’s church have tiptoed around the subject of the remarriage of divorced persons. People’s souls are at stake!
The word “adultery” comes from “adulterate”, which means “to pollute by adding a foreign substance.” The verb tense of the Greek word “MOICHATAI” which is translated “committeth adultery” is present tense and indicates an ongoing continuous state of sin. Anyone who divorces his spouse and marries another is living in a continuous state of adultery. Adultery is a sin and one must repent of it if one expects to go to Heaven. To repent of an adulterous marriage, one must get out of the marriage to stop committing the adultery.
If one continues in his adultery, he will meet the wrath of God. As we read in Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Do we really realize how serious the judgment will be? In Proverbs 6:32 we read, “But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: but he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.”
Jesus said, “Whosoever marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery” (Matthew 19:9). Why is the one marrying her also guilty of adultery? She is still bound to her first husband. In God’s eyes he has taken another man’s wife and is committing adultery with her. An example of a woman being bound to one husband but married to another if found in Mark 6:17-18. “For Herod himself had sent forth and laid hold upon John, and bound him in prison for Herodias’ sake, his brother Philip’s wife: for he had married her. For John had said unto Herod, It is not lawful for thee to have thy brother’s wife.” Herod and Herodias had an adulterous marriage. Herodias was still Philip’s wife and bound to him even though she had married Herod.
In Ezra chapter 10 some of those who had returned to Jerusalem from Babylonian captivity had married pagan wives and some had children by them. God had commanded the Israelites not to intermarry with pagan people. In Ezra 10:3 they were commanded “to put away all these wives and those who have been born to them”. The children involved did not justify the Israelites keeping their pagan wives. Today, children that are involved do not justify continuing in a sinful adulterous marriage “for the children’s sake”. There are some, especially when children are involved, who say, “I don’t believe God expects them to break up their marriage”. They are correct when they say they “don’t believe God”. They don’t believe what God’s inspired word says in Matthew 5:32, 19:9, and Romans 7:2-3. In Romans 6:1-2 Paul asks the question, “Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?” One is never justified in continuing in the sin of adultery or any other sin.

to be continued………